Q&A: HE FINISHED TOO QUICKLY
Not Having Sex for Long Time
Maybe you have been dating for months but you are yet to have sex. Or, your partner has not dated after breaking up from a long-term relationship. In such a case, your partner needs time to build up stamina as far as bedroom marathon is concerned. Well, you should not be worried about this, as it is a sign that the guy has decided not to be having sex now and again. That is also a sign that the guy is committed to you. As you have sex more frequent, his stamina will improve.
Studies have shown that when a man finishes too quickly, he is obsessed with you. Well, have you ever imagined having the guy in bed and how it will be? He is also thinking about it. When you get to bed, the guy gets overexcited and finishes quite quickly. This happens because the guy finds you to be gorgeous. In such a case, you should take the premature ejaculation as a form of compliment. You just turned the guy on! It will not take long to overcome this problem. After having sex several times, the guy will start to improve. However, if there is no improvement, then there are other issues causing it.
Although most men suffer from premature ejaculation, if it occurs more frequent, he is suffering from a condition that needs medical help. When the guy is about to ejaculate, try to take it slow and check whether that helps. You may also need to consult a doctor. Usually, when the guy has a medical condition, he is likely to ejaculate even before having sex.
7. He has very little self-control
A lot of a man’s stamina in the bedroom comes from self-control. He has to stop himself from finishing until you’re done. That’s really the basis of it.
Over time, guys learn how to control this so they can last longer and longer. Some men, however, just don’t have enough self-control to stop it from happening, no matter how long they’ve been trying to master it.
And some guys just don’t realize they can control it if they practice some. You can mention this to him but overall, just take it slower. Be sure to extend the foreplay, maybe even use some vibrating toys. If you have 3 orgasms before he’s even had one, it’s going to go a long way in making him (and you!) feel better.
Pull away when you think he’s going to finish so he can regain control and then start again. Over time, it’ll get better.
We all know the story of a guy losing his virginity after a whole 30 seconds with a girl. It happens.
Guys get really excited when they don’t have a lot of experience and they also lack the control and discipline needed to last a long time.
If this is the case, you’ll know it. He’ll either be very young or over-eager to get in bed with you.
He Might Have A Medical Condition
We will talk about medical conditions that cause premature ejaculation later on. But for now, let’s just leave it at that. There are some conditions that can cause rapid ejaculation.
Talk with your partner and encourage him to seek help if it is a medical problem.
This might sound weird, but you might be pleasuring him too much. It is a sign you are that good. No matter if it is foreplay or oral sex, you might need to slow down.
Give your man some time and do not over the top with teasing and pleasuring before penetrative sex. At least until you get closer in the relationship and see each other for a while.
When a man reaches an orgasm, he lets go of his control and emotions. If you want him focused and make sex last longer, take your hand off the ignition and slow the thing down.
Sometimes this is the case, and there is nothing you can do about it. Just move on and find a different partner. One that pays attention to your needs as well.
The reality is that not all men care if their partner comes as well. They do not care if you, their girlfriend, has a good time in bed.
It is the reality of sleeping with someone who doesn’t care for you on an emotional level. He just wants to satisfy his needs.
You can easily tell a selfish lover. They pay little to no attention to the foreplay. He will move right into his favorite position and preferred sex play.
Let’s be honest, experience plays a role in sex. And for men, that holds even more ground. Men need experience in the sack to develop their skills and find techniques to last longer.
Over time, men find ways to distract themselves and slow down everything. But ejaculatory control takes time. And if you are handling an inexperienced partner in the bedroom, give him time. If he learns the ins and outs with you, he will appreciate you even more.
Walk him through everything you want in the bedroom. And he will follow you.
Sex is all about versatility and playing. If you stick to a single position for vaginal penetration, your man will come. Try changing sex positions often during intercourse.
Chancing sex positions is a fun way to make things better in the bedroom. And receive more pleasure in the process.
For men, though, this is a necessary change to ensure they last longer. Why? Because when they change position it gives them a chance to catch a break and calm down. And then they can continue.
Bonus: changing positions makes sex even more exciting for both of you.
Stamina comes from self-control. Your man has to stop himself from finishing until you are ready as well. And that is the reality and basis of everything.
Sadly, not all men have the same self-control to get there and get you there. While some men learn it eventually, others never develop the self-control to make sex last longer.